{"id":6646,"date":"2024-08-27T00:00:31","date_gmt":"2024-08-27T00:00:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fitolympia.com\/?p=6646"},"modified":"2024-08-27T16:11:18","modified_gmt":"2024-08-27T16:11:18","slug":"how-to-increase-your-low-libido","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fitolympia.com\/tr\/how-to-increase-your-low-libido\/","title":{"rendered":"D\u00dc\u015e\u00dcK LIBIDONUZU NASIL ARTIRIRSIN?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Bir daha seks yapmaktan neredeyse tamamen vazge\u00e7mi\u015ftim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Evliydim ve kocam hala onunla \u00e7ok ilgileniyordu. Beni arzulad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a belirtti. Onu yine de \u00e7ekici buldum. Ve haftada birka\u00e7 kez randevu geceleri yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zdan emin olduk.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ama i\u015fe yaramad\u0131.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fiziksel olarak elimizde olan her \u015fey vard\u0131. Seks d\u00fcrt\u00fcm hi\u00e7bir yerde bulunamad\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hala uyar\u0131lma hissettim, ama \u00e7ok ara s\u0131ra ve k\u0131sa s\u00fcrd\u00fc. E\u011fer k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir cinsel d\u00fcrt\u00fc hissettiysem, bu konuda bir \u015fey yapabilecek durumdayken gitmi\u015fti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Seks yapmadan haftalarca giderdik. Kendimi su\u00e7lu hissetti\u011fim i\u00e7in kendime bunu yapmay\u0131 b\u0131rakt\u0131\u011f\u0131mda aylar s\u00fcrebilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bana ne oldu\u011fu hakk\u0131nda hi\u00e7bir fikrim yoktu. 20’li ya\u015flar\u0131mdayd\u0131m, ama belki de azg\u0131nl\u0131k evremden \u00e7oktan ya\u015flanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. Ya da belki de bu sadece evlilik hayat\u0131yd\u0131 – yerle\u015ftikten sonra sevi\u015fmeyi durduran ilk uzun vadeli \u00e7ift olmazd\u0131k.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

D\u00fc\u015f\u00fck cinsiyetli ya\u015fam tarz\u0131n\u0131 benimsemeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. Kocamla \u00e7ift\u00e7i pazar\u0131na gittim. S\u0131f\u0131rdan simit yaparken ne olursa olsun konu\u015furduk. Geceleri Ofise bakar ve sar\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131k.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bu evlili\u011fin geride kalabilece\u011fim bir versiyonu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ama seksi ka\u00e7\u0131rd\u0131m, asl\u0131nda bir arzu hissetmesem de.<\/strong><\/mark><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u00c7ok azg\u0131n hissetmenin ne kadar sarho\u015f edici olabilece\u011fini hat\u0131rlad\u0131m. Do\u011fru \u015fekilde becerdin etmenin ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m yo\u011fun zevk d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda her \u015feyi unutturmas\u0131n\u0131 ka\u00e7\u0131rd\u0131m. Ke\u015fke o kadar yak\u0131n olman\u0131n verdi\u011fi derin samimiyeti hissedebilsem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sonra bir uyar\u0131lma sanc\u0131s\u0131 hissetti\u011fim zamanlar oldu. Kocam\u0131n kemi\u011fini atlamam i\u00e7in yeterli de\u011fildi ve bu da onu ger\u00e7ekten sinir bozucu yapt\u0131. Ke\u015fke bu duyguyu devam ettirebilseydim, in\u015fa edebilseydim, oraya kadar gidebilseydim ve ger\u00e7ekten tad\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7\u0131karabilseydim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bazen s\u0131k\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131m. \u0130nmenin Facebook’ta gezinmekten \u00e7ok daha e\u011flenceli olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 biliyordum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bu konuda bir \u015feyler yapmaya karar verdim. Seks d\u00fcrt\u00fcm\u00fc geri almak i\u00e7in y\u0131llar\u0131m\u0131 harcad\u0131m. Baz\u0131 deneme yan\u0131lma ile, libidomu ger\u00e7ekten seks isteyecek kadar y\u00fckseltebilecek birka\u00e7 y\u00f6ntem buldum (sadece istemek de\u011fil).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Seks d\u00fcrt\u00fcm yeni \u00f6ld\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde yapabilece\u011fim bir \u015fey yoktu. E\u011fer bir arzu par\u0131lt\u0131m bile olmasayd\u0131, bunu a\u015fman\u0131n bir yolu yoktu. Sonunda, onunla sava\u015fmamam gerekti – bunun bir anlam\u0131 yok ve yine de benim i\u00e7in sorun de\u011fil.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ama biraz uyar\u0131lma oldu\u011funda, seks yapmakla ilgilendi\u011fimi hissetti\u011fimde ama v\u00fccudumun biraz ikna edilmeye ihtiyac\u0131 oldu\u011funda, i\u015fte o zaman ralli yapabilirim. E\u011fer do\u011fru \u015feyleri yaparsam, kendimi h\u0131zland\u0131r\u0131p kocam\u0131 tatmin edici bir seks i\u00e7in d\u00f6vebilirim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Libidonuz sizi hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011fratt\u0131ysa, i\u015fte uyar\u0131lmam\u0131 istedi\u011fim yere yak\u0131n olmasa bile ba\u015far\u0131yla g\u00fcndeme getirmemin yollar\u0131.<\/mark><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Porno \u0130zleyin ve Erotika Okuyun<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
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This was my main method for raising my libido earlier in my marriage, and it\u2019s still the one I tend to use now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I\u2019m not super horny, my imagination doesn\u2019t come up with all the scenarios that keep my fires burning. Instead, I need porn and erotica to keep my mind focused on all the hot details and sexy moments I can get excited about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes, when I just need a little help getting there, I\u2019ll ask my husband to watch porn with me. It can be an effective part of foreplay \u2014 even if we spend some time laughing at the script.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Erotica is usually more of a solo activity. But I have asked Mr. Austin to read some erotic stories to me in bed and let me just say that it works.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I\u2019m horny, I can go to the front page of a porn site and pick something that looks good. But when my sex drive is just warming up, I need to get specific. That used to mean finding porn with lots of dirty talk or a focus on anal \u2014 or both if I hit the jackpot. These days, I\u2019ll look for hot daddy porn and first-time roleplay that hits the right balance of being playful and positive without feeling too sketchy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If your libido is low, don\u2019t waste your time browsing. Zero in on your personal kinks. Type in the keywords that really get you off or that you\u2019re too embarrassed to tell your partner about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Plan Sex (But Don\u2019t Schedule It)<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
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Out of all the things I tried to manage my low libido, scheduling sex was one of the worst.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had high hopes because it\u2019s what everyone recommends. I also loved the simplicity of it: just put sex on the calendar and you\u2019ll be ready to fuck when that date comes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But it never worked out that way.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Scheduling it made me feel pressured to have sex, and that\u2019s a major lady boner killer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It made me feel resentful, too. I was mad at myself for agreeing to something I didn\u2019t want anymore. And it made me feel weird about my husband to be fucking him when I didn\u2019t really want to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It only worked when I took the pressure out of it. Instead of scheduling sex or setting up a date night with the intention of fucking, I just made a personal plan to have sex.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The big difference is that I kept it to myself. I would decide to have sex on a given night, then I\u2019d spend the entire day trying to get in the mood and staying in that zone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Having that goal helped a lot. And because it was entirely private, I didn\u2019t have to feel the pressure that comes with my partner expecting to have sex. There was no one for me to disappoint other than myself.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Taking away the expectation actually made it more likely that I\u2019d get there. And when I didn\u2019t, it wasn\u2019t a big deal. I could just shrug and get some snuggles instead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Keep Your Lifestyle in Check<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
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Making sure I feel good in general is a big part of keeping my libido from slipping too low.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eating well and staying physically active goes a long way to helping you feel sexy. I\u2019ve also had success with intermittent fasting. I\u2019m just one gal so this is anecdotal, but taking it up had a noticeable effect on my sex drive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Wearing things that make me feel more attractive and less frumpy works too. Doing my hair and my makeup will make me less self-conscious and give me the extra confidence I need to strip down in front of someone else.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s really hard to get in the mood when you don\u2019t feel like your hottest self, so keep up all the habits that keep you feeling that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Use Ben Wa Balls<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

When I slipped ben wa balls inside me for the first time, I was honestly shocked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I knew they were supposed to make me feel horny. But I didn\u2019t realize just how horny and how quickly they would start working.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Walking around while I was wearing them gave me enough stimulation to keep me aroused. I couldn\u2019t stop focusing on how they felt \u2014 and the more I focused on what was happening down there, the more I craved sex.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve never tried using them when my libido is completely dead, so I have no idea if they could revive your desire if you have none whatsoever. But when I\u2019m mildly in the mood, it\u2019s enough to get me warm in all the right places.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pamper Yourself<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
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When you have a fragile libido, it doesn\u2019t take a lot of stress to ruin it. One of the best ways you can nurture it is to go through your most relaxing pampering ritual.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

With four young kids in the house, shit can get overwhelming real fast. So, if I want to make sure I\u2019m down to fuck in the evening, I\u2019ll often ask my husband to watch the kids for a while so I can sneak in a bubble bath.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Taking a bath gives me some time away from my responsibilities. I like to go all out. I\u2019ll drop a bath bomb in the bath. I\u2019ll use my salt scrub to make my skin extra soft. And I won\u2019t hesitate to refill the tub if the water starts to get a little cold. Anything I can do to just enjoy it and feel good will help me get in the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Locking myself in the bathroom for an extended period of time also gives me the perfect opportunity to enjoy some audio porn (or regular porn) with zero distractions or interruptions. So if you decide to take a horny bath, be sure to bring your phone with you. You might need it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Communicate Your Kinks<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
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Sometimes, the reason it\u2019s hard to get horny is that you\u2019re not sure the sex you\u2019re working yourself up to is going to hit all your buttons.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, it\u2019s important to talk to your partner about your buttons. Discuss them at length. Tell them what you\u2019re into, what turns you on, and what turns you off.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you want them to spank you or make more noise when you\u2019re fucking? Is the foreplay over too quickly? Do they do that head push thing and it makes you want to stay ten feet away from their cock? Figure out if changing something could help you get your sexual needs met.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When my marriage bed had gone cold, part of the reason is that we had gotten into a sexual rut. The sex was a little too vanilla for my taste, everything we did was so routine I could practically time it down to the second, and none of it was terribly satisfying for either of us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things got better when we opened up and started talking about what we wanted out of sex. I needed lots of praise and reassurance, I needed to give up control so I could get out of my head, and the right kind of sensory stimulations made things much more pleasurable. My husband needed to take the lead because it made him feel desired to have me submit to him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bu ihtiya\u00e7lara uyum sa\u011flamak seksi daha ilgin\u00e7 hale getirdi, bu da onunla ilgilenmemi \u00e7ok daha kolay hale getirdi.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

O konu\u015fmalar hala devam ediyor. Her \u015feyi \u00e7\u00f6zd\u00fck, ama bazen sadece belirli bir hareket havas\u0131na girebiliyorum. O g\u00fcnlerde kocama “Umar\u0131m bu gece bana h\u00fckmetmeyi planl\u0131yorsundur \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc buna ihtiyac\u0131m var” ya da “Beni daha sonra ba\u011flaman\u0131 istiyorum” diyece\u011fim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ayn\u0131 fikirde olduktan sonra, d\u00f6rt g\u00f6zle bekledi\u011fim \u00e7ok iyi bir \u015fey oldu\u011funu biliyorum ve bunun i\u00e7in kendimi bu kadar heyecanland\u0131rmak \u00e7ok daha kolay.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kald\u0131r onu.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

Seks d\u00fcrt\u00fcmle bo\u011fu\u015ftuktan y\u0131llar sonra sorunun k\u00f6keninin ne oldu\u011funu \u00f6\u011frendim. Te\u015fhis edilmemi\u015f hormonal sorunlar\u0131m vard\u0131, bu da beni tamamen dengesiz yapt\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u015eu anda bu durum i\u00e7in tedavi g\u00f6r\u00fcyorum ve bu \u00e7ok b\u00fcy\u00fck bir geli\u015fme oldu. Ama yine de seks yapmak istemekle bunu yapmak i\u00e7in yeterince arzu hissetmemek aras\u0131nda belirsizlik i\u00e7inde s\u0131k\u0131\u015f\u0131p kald\u0131\u011f\u0131m o g\u00fcnlerin \u00e7o\u011funu ya\u015f\u0131yorum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bu oldu\u011funda, kendimi oraya g\u00f6t\u00fcremek i\u00e7in hala t\u00fcm bu y\u00f6ntemleri kullan\u0131yorum. Hormonlar\u0131m bir g\u00fcn m\u00fckemmel dengeye gelse bile, i\u00e7imden bir ses ara s\u0131ra ihtiyac\u0131m olacakm\u0131\u015f gibi geliyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

D\u00fc\u015f\u00fck libidomu nas\u0131l y\u00f6netece\u011fimi \u00f6\u011frenmek v\u00fccudum \u00fczerinde biraz kontrol edinmeme yard\u0131mc\u0131 oldu ve bu da sonunda ili\u015fkimin tad\u0131n\u0131 kendi \u015fartlar\u0131mla \u00e7\u0131karabilece\u011fim anlam\u0131na geliyor.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Bir daha seks yapmaktan neredeyse tamamen vazge\u00e7mi\u015ftim. Evliydim ve kocam hala onunla \u00e7ok ilgileniyordu. Beni arzulad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a belirtti. 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